Tuesday, May 28, 2013

Sewing as therapy

Hi peeps,

A few months ago, we saw our beautiful, usually happy,  then 6 year old daughter very upset.  She is a sensitive soul and can be so very, very sweet (not all the time!)  She has always made, and kept,  friends easily.

Hearts 1

It is very difficult as a parent, to be watching as other children treat her feelings with little thought or go against their word.  They are only 6 and 7 year olds and so often completely unaware of how their words or actions can hurt another.  Our girl was hurting.  She was so upset one day, she would not get on the school bus.

Heart 2

I found this situation very confronting.  Part of me was angry yet part of me understands that they are only 6 and 7 year old children, emotionally very young.  Part of me is so, so sad that this happens to anyone, let alone our sweet girl.  Abbey has had very little exposure to this type of behaviour before.  We talk about feelings and behaviour with our children all the time.  I feel Abbey is a very thoughtful child.

Heart 3

So we are now learning how to cope with it. Learning how to make her stronger, more resilient.  This is not an easy task, for her or us.

How have I been dealing with this?  By sewing, of course.

Here are some pretty photos of some lovely flannelette fabric I have been sewing with, making newborn baby gifts.  This flannelette is the softest I have ever sewn with, it is so lush.  Not to mention, the colours make my heart swell with happiness.  I needed this happiness in my heart when it was aching for our big girl.

Have a happy day.

Cat xox

NB: this post was written many months ago.  It has been edited, almost deleted and almost published so many times.  I can report all is well in Abbey's world now. 


  1. Thank goodness al is well for Abbey now. Gorgeous hearts.

  2. Glad to hear all is better for Abbey. So heartbreaking to see our kids in pain. Nothing worse.
    Claire xx

  3. I'm delighted to hear that everything is ok now. Sometimes it's so difficult to know what to do in these situations. I've been there myself with my son. When he has asked for advice sometimes I just was not sure what the right thing to say or do was. I was terrified of giving bad advice to him but came to realise that the best thing was to always be there listening to all the worries and concerns so that he always knew that he could talk to me about anything.
    I hope that your little darling has no more problems.
    Rosie xx

  4. This is what I find the absolute hardest about being a mama - that we are so emotionally connected and put hearts hurt so much when theirs do. It kills you as u have so much less control. So glad to hear all is well now. xo

  5. What a thoughtful beautiful post. Children are so precious and I know it hurts so much to see them hurt. I am glad you added that update at the bottom of the post and that she is ok now.

    I am also so glad that you added me on google+ which help me discover your pretty blog!

  6. What a lovely way to deal with the tough things going on....love the fabric xx

  7. SO glad to hear it's all better for Abbey. But Upset to hear about it in the first place too, it's a horrible business, and the thing i find distressing is I think people are more aware of it but it seems to be getting more common.


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